Relationship Help - Unmasking True Love
We find a relationship and feel some true love and we are very happy. For a while. Then some conflict or distance or routine settles in and we seem to lose it some.
How do we keep true love going in a relationship long term? How do we keep from losing this true love which can be so hard to ever find?
There are lots of answers to questions of keeping true love. It is not a simple or one answer fits all type of issue.
This article will focus on one thing. And that is that keeping true love requires you to be real and authentic with your mate. One way to do this is to take off your mask.
Now, of course, we all wear masks in our daily lives. One example of a mask is being a “good girl.” You try to please your man, you try to avoid conflict, you focus on being a good follower and a helpful partner. Another type of mask could be “I don’t need anybody, I’m strong and independent.” You try to handle everything yourself and appear strong and invulnerable.
Yet, when it comes to true love, wearing our masks in the relationship can get in the way. Being a good girl is nice, but sometimes you cant just go along with your mate. Sometimes you need to have conflict and you need to stand up for what you want, not just pleasing your partner. And sometimes you have to make sure you are getting pleased, not just doing all the pleasing.
Or if you are wearing the strong independent type mask you can end up shutting your partner out, and you need to let them in by being vulnerable and needing your mate from time to time.
We need to learn to take off our masks with our partners. True love cannot grow in a relationship that is not genuine and based on the truth. Wearing a mask all the time, trying to put on your best persona, will kill off true love because you have to be real and honest to keep love going strong.